Verizon Foundation grants What is LOVE $10,000

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PRESS RELEASE! (January 2016)

Verizon Foundation grants What is LOVE $10,000 Foundation partnership a critical factor in program’s success. What is LOVE, a non-profit organization, has a proven curriculum providing community schools essential dating violence prevention.

What Is LOVE, is pleased to announce receiving a $10,000 grant from Verizon Foundation. Heidi Flato, Public Relations | Pacific Market for Verizon , said, “Verizon supports the work of nonprofits such as, What is LOVE, as they strive to improve the communities where our employees work and live. Together, we can help our youth learn about healthy relationships and how to prevent violence”.

“One in three teens in the Santa Barbara County report experiencing physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, and digital abuse from a dating partner and most dating abuse happens in our schools,” says Christy Haynes MA, Psy, Founder & Director of Prevention for What is LOVE. “This generous grant from Verizon will help sustain our life-saving educational programs”.

Haynes adds, “Dating abuse prevention is not an easy topic to teach, and many educators don’t know where to start. That’s where What is LOVE can help. We have a variety of proven programs and materials that can be implemented in all school settings. We can train school administrators and staff, we offer workshops for parents, and we provide community outreach materials to help teens throughout the country.”

What is LOVE has been actively providing educational school-based programs for more than two decades, and has partnered with educators in Santa Barbara County and researchers at the University of California, Santa Barbara to measure the program’s effectiveness. Since 2009, the What is LOVE program has reached 33,292 teens:

What is LOVE, Ready to Help California Schools with New Law 96% reported an increased knowledge and understanding of dating violence 82% reported they know how to find resources and would get help for an abusive relationships which has led to a 300% increase in teens asking for help. Educators who are interested in learning more about educating adolescents on dating violence prevention are invited to learn more at www.whatisloveteens.org.

About Verizon Foundation
For more than a decade, Verizon , through its various business units and its philanthropic foundation , has been a champion of ending domestic violence. Verizon supports a broad range of programs that include: training health care practitioners and first responders about screening for signs of abuse; engaging men as role models and advocates for prevention; educating teens about preventing dating violence ; and providing resources for domestic prevention organizations and survivors.

Christy Haynes, Founder
Christy@whatisloveteens.org
805-705-0011

A Parents’ Guide- February is National Teen Dating Violence Awareness & Prevention Month

 

5 TIPS FOR PARENTS ABOUT TEEN DATING

ONE: COMMUNICATE– Start talking to your teen well before they start dating. 72% of 7th graders report they are dating.

TWO: LEAD BY EXAMPLE– Teen’s primary influence about dating is what they learn at home.

THREE: PAY ATTENTION– The second biggest dating influence is what your teen sees on TV, movies, music, video games and social media. This is a great opportunity to start a conversation about the difference between healthy and unhealthy dating. Approach communication through curiosity.

FOUR: STAY CONNECTED– Teens with high self-esteem are less likely to experience dating abuse. Look for activities that strengthen self-respect and empathy for others.

FIVE: JOIN THE CONVERSATION– Contact your teen’s principal today to express why you believe dating abuse prevention is essential. 87% of dating abuse occurs on SCHOOL GROUNDS.

ONE in THREE teens in Santa Barbara are experiencing physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, or digital abuse from a dating partner” says Christy Haynes MA, Psy, Founder of What is LOVE. “Talking about dating is not an easy topic to discuss with teens and as many as 80% of parents don’t know where to start. That’s where What is LOVE can help. We have a variety of proven programs and materials that can support this We train school administrators and staff, we offer workshops for parents, and we provide community outreach materials to help teens throughout the country.”

What is LOVE has been actively providing educational school-based programs for more than two decades, and has partnered with educators in Santa Barbara County and researchers at the University of California, Santa Barbara to measure the program’s effectiveness. Since 2009, the What is LOVE program has reached 33,292 teens:

96% reported an increased knowledge and understanding of dating violence
82% reported they know how to find resources and would get help for an abusive relationships Which has led to a 300% increase in teens asking for HELP.

PARENT CHECK LIST
-Excessive Texting
-Depression or anxiety
-Stops activities they enjoy
-Dating partner is extremely jealous
-Dressing differently
-Stops spending time with friends
-Decrease in grades & attendance

QUESTION STARTERS . . .
-How are things going?
-What are your friends’ dating relationships like?
-Why do you think someone would abuse someone they were dating?
-How do you know a relationship is healthy?
-How is your relationship going?

Christy Haynes, Founder
Christy@whatisloveteens.org
805-705-0011

FREE PARENT & TEEN WORKSHOP: Thursday, April 23 at 6PM, Faulkner Gallery, Central Library, 40 East Anapamu.



Is Your Teen Dating Without Danger? Did you know that 2 out of 3 teens will experience dating abuse? What is LOVE offers a FREE Parent Workshop helping parents to identify red flags of abusive dating, practice conversation starters, and connect to school and community resources.

Unfortunately, 75% of parents don’t talk with their teens about relationships. While these numbers are startling, talking to your teen is the best way to prevent them from experiencing dating abuse.

Christy Haynes, What is LOVE founder and dating abuse prevention expert explains, “Although your teen may not tell you this, they actually want to have these conversations. By starting a conversation, you have the power to set them up to do better in school, to be safer, to be happier, and better prepared for college or a career.”

Thursday, April 23rd join us for a FREE Parent and Teen Workshop at the Faulkner Gallery located in the Santa Barbara Public Library, 40 East Anapamu Street, from 6PM-7:30PM. Delish Food, Spanish Translation and Childcare provided. Community service offered too!

DID YOU KNOW? Teens who are harmed by dating abuse are more likely to do poorly in school, binge drink, attempt suicide, engage in physical fighting, and have a greater likelihood of teen pregnancy.

What is LOVE is committed to giving parents and teens the tools they need to interrupt this cycle and build healthy relationship skills. Research confirms the number one indicator for better grades, better attendance, and happier teens is building healthy relationship skills. For more information please contact Christy Haynes at 805-705-0011 or Christy@whatisloveteens.org

Teens Learn About Healthy Relationships on KEYT

 

February is National Teen Dating Violence Prevention Awareness Month

SANTA BARBARA, Calif. –
In honor of National Teen Dating Violence Prevention Awareness Month, teens have been taught about love.

Christy Haynes has been teaching students at area high schools during a program called “What Is Love.”

A six-week workshop wrapped up at the Faulkner Gallery inside the Santa Barbara Library Monday night.

Haynes invited college students from UCSB and Westmont to mentor teens.

They say abuse isn’t just physical and verbal– it is digital as well.

Teens have noticed a spike in revenge photos and hateful words posted on social media.

Haynes said parents should look out for dropping grades and truancy. She said those could be red flags relating to an unhealthy relationship.

She also said more than 70 percent seventh graders have already experienced some kind of relationship.

Click below to watch the video:

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Source: http://www.keyt.com/news/teens-learn-about-healthy-relationships/31440470

BODY LOVE

 

Have you or anyone you know ever been in a relationship of any sort which was affected by someone’s negative or unhealthy body image? If you have, then you know how much of a downer it is and how it can affect every aspect of that person’s daily life.

A lot of the women who have contacted me recently in response to my blog have shared about their struggles throughout their entire lives with their own body image as it relates to their sense of self worth. Many of these women are unsuspecting: seemingly healthy, fit and confident people. But the truth is that no matter her shape, size or weight, many women are trained from a very young age to learn to hide these “imperfections”.

And so the point is that it’s not actually about the body so much as about the fact that we are MISSING OUT ON LIFE by being obsessed with our bodies, our weight, and our appearance. The truth is that it is simply a huge time suck be forever worried about the size of various parts of one’s body. This is time that could be otherwise allocated to doing AWESOME THINGS and to utilizing one’s talents and energy to create and be engaged in life.

Many readers said they experienced body shame because so many of us feel or have felt as if we are weaker-spirited or weaker-minded if we feel bad about our bodies…Strangely this is NOT often a function of body fat percentage or pant size. In many cases, women feel ashamed and self-conscious regardless of how our bodies actually look or feel. This is interesting isn’t it?

This is what I call a social epidemic. And we are 100% able to change and heal it. It begins with letting go of the shame and guilt by using your intelligence and heart to understand that this way of thinking is learned, it is not natural, and it is not YOU.

The other fascinating aspect of the feedback I’ve received is that so many women used words like “courage” and “bravery” when commenting about the images of me. Yes, I suppose it is brave to put pictures of oneself showing some skin online in front of peer, family, and public groups. Totally. I agree. But that’s not actually what most people were referring. See, it has become very normalized for thin women and models to be in our faces in the media with very little clothing on, but when a bigger voluptuous woman does so, it is DARING, a bit taboo and totally courageous!

The reality is, I’m just another woman posing in front of a camera! My waist is thicker and cheeks are fuller. So it’s really not about the amount of skin being shown, for we see hundreds of images every day in the media showing equivalent amounts of skin. The fine print in what some readers are really saying (perhaps only subconsciously) is: “It isn’t culturally accepted to have curves, (weight in the areas where most women naturally do) and so the bigger curvy woman is less attractive, less sexy.” And so, for a curvy woman to celebrate and show her body, instead of hide, camouflage or reject it is considered… SO BRAVE!

Take a minute to dissect all of this. I encourage any readers who had this response to question the underlying/unconscious belief from where it came. You may find that this is very likely a culturally constructed belief, which was absorbed at some point in your socialization and that maybe it has also affected the way you look at and treat your own body.

I imagine many people felt the dual reaction of both sadness and empowerment from this website, which are both awesome and authentic responses. So yes! -Be sad, grieve, be angry, cry and scream (highly recommended for releasing a bit of rage). And then afterward, forgive, move on…and get fierce. Things are changing fast. And YOU are the agent of this change.

Your grace and sense of self are all you have.

Written by Chantal Peterson
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