Parent Community meeting

The Santa Barbara Public Library hosted a Parent-Teen Workshop about the show Thirteen Reasons Why on September 27th  and October 4th. The show candidly discusses teen suicide, dating violence, sexual assault and bullying. It paints an accurate if disturbing picture of some aspects of teenage life. See the the parent and teen responses to, “How can we support you better?”

Verizon Foundation Grants What is LOVE $25,000

Verizon Foundation partnership a critical factor in program’s success. What is LOVE, a non-profit organization, has an evidence-based curriculum providing Santa Barbara County schools vital dating violence prevention.

Santa Barbara (October 2016) What Is LOVE, is pleased to announce receiving a $25,000 grant from Verizon Foundation Hopeline Campaign. Heidi Flato, Public Relations director for the pacific market for Verizon , said, “Verizon supports the work of nonprofits such as, What is LOVE, as they strive to improve the communities where our employees work and live. Together, we can help our youth learn about healthy relationships and how to prevent and end teen dating violence”.

What is LOVE has been actively providing school-based education programs that teach sexual assault prevention and healthy relationships for two decades.  

“Teen dating abuse has a serious impact on our schools. Dating abuse incidents threaten the safety of students and staff, distract students from learning and compromise the school climate. One in three teens in Santa Barbara county report experiencing physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, and digital abuse from a dating partner and most dating abuse happens in our schools,” says Christy Haynes-Stillwell MA, Psy, Founder & Executive Director for What is LOVE. “This generous grant from Verizon will help sustain our life-saving educational programs”.

Adds Haynes-Stillwell, “Dating abuse prevention is a difficult topic to approach, and many educators and parents don’t know where to start. That’s where What is LOVE can help. We have a variety of proven programs and materials that can be implemented in all school settings. We train school administrators and staff, we work with parent’s to help them identify abusive dating behavior and we provide community outreach materials to help teens throughout the country.”

What is LOVE has been actively providing educational school-based programs for more than two decades, and has partnered with educators in Santa Barbara County and researchers at the University of California, Santa Barbara to measure the program’s effectiveness. Since 2009, the What is LOVE program has reached 33,292 teens:

  • 96% reported an increased knowledge and understanding of dating violence
  • 82% reported they know how to find resources and would get help for an abusive relationships
  • Which has led to a 300% increase in teens asking for help

Educators or parents who are interested in learning more about educating adolescents on dating violence prevention are invited to learn more at whatisloveteens.org.

About Verizon Foundation

For more than a decade, Verizon , through its various business units and its philanthropic foundation , has been a champion of ending domestic violence. Verizon supports a broad range of programs that include: training health care practitioners and first responders about screening for signs of abuse; engaging men as role models and advocates for prevention; educating teens about preventing dating violence ; and providing resources for domestic prevention organizations and survivors.

About HopeLine:

HopeLine from Verizon connects survivors of domestic violence to vital resources, funds organizations nationwide and protects the environment. HopeLine provides ways for individuals to take action against domestic violence by donation no-longer-used wireless phones and accessories in any condition from any service provider. Verizon turns these devices into support for domestic violence organizations and programs nationwide.

Verizon Foundation grants What is LOVE $10,000

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PRESS RELEASE! (January 2016)

Verizon Foundation grants What is LOVE $10,000 Foundation partnership a critical factor in program’s success. What is LOVE, a non-profit organization, has a proven curriculum providing community schools essential dating violence prevention.

What Is LOVE, is pleased to announce receiving a $10,000 grant from Verizon Foundation. Heidi Flato, Public Relations | Pacific Market for Verizon , said, “Verizon supports the work of nonprofits such as, What is LOVE, as they strive to improve the communities where our employees work and live. Together, we can help our youth learn about healthy relationships and how to prevent violence”.

“One in three teens in the Santa Barbara County report experiencing physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, and digital abuse from a dating partner and most dating abuse happens in our schools,” says Christy Haynes MA, Psy, Founder & Director of Prevention for What is LOVE. “This generous grant from Verizon will help sustain our life-saving educational programs”.

Haynes adds, “Dating abuse prevention is not an easy topic to teach, and many educators don’t know where to start. That’s where What is LOVE can help. We have a variety of proven programs and materials that can be implemented in all school settings. We can train school administrators and staff, we offer workshops for parents, and we provide community outreach materials to help teens throughout the country.”

What is LOVE has been actively providing educational school-based programs for more than two decades, and has partnered with educators in Santa Barbara County and researchers at the University of California, Santa Barbara to measure the program’s effectiveness. Since 2009, the What is LOVE program has reached 33,292 teens:

What is LOVE, Ready to Help California Schools with New Law 96% reported an increased knowledge and understanding of dating violence 82% reported they know how to find resources and would get help for an abusive relationships which has led to a 300% increase in teens asking for help. Educators who are interested in learning more about educating adolescents on dating violence prevention are invited to learn more at www.whatisloveteens.org.

About Verizon Foundation
For more than a decade, Verizon , through its various business units and its philanthropic foundation , has been a champion of ending domestic violence. Verizon supports a broad range of programs that include: training health care practitioners and first responders about screening for signs of abuse; engaging men as role models and advocates for prevention; educating teens about preventing dating violence ; and providing resources for domestic prevention organizations and survivors.

Christy Haynes, Founder
Christy@whatisloveteens.org
805-705-0011

A Parents’ Guide- February is National Teen Dating Violence Awareness & Prevention Month

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5 TIPS FOR PARENTS ABOUT TEEN DATING

ONE: COMMUNICATE– Start talking to your teen well before they start dating. 72% of 7th graders report they are dating.

TWO: LEAD BY EXAMPLE– Teen’s primary influence about dating is what they learn at home.

THREE: PAY ATTENTION– The second biggest dating influence is what your teen sees on TV, movies, music, video games and social media. This is a great opportunity to start a conversation about the difference between healthy and unhealthy dating. Approach communication through curiosity.

FOUR: STAY CONNECTED– Teens with high self-esteem are less likely to experience dating abuse. Look for activities that strengthen self-respect and empathy for others.

FIVE: JOIN THE CONVERSATION– Contact your teen’s principal today to express why you believe dating abuse prevention is essential. 87% of dating abuse occurs on SCHOOL GROUNDS.

ONE in THREE teens in Santa Barbara are experiencing physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, or digital abuse from a dating partner” says Christy Haynes MA, Psy, Founder of What is LOVE. “Talking about dating is not an easy topic to discuss with teens and as many as 80% of parents don’t know where to start. That’s where What is LOVE can help. We have a variety of proven programs and materials that can support this We train school administrators and staff, we offer workshops for parents, and we provide community outreach materials to help teens throughout the country.”

What is LOVE has been actively providing educational school-based programs for more than two decades, and has partnered with educators in Santa Barbara County and researchers at the University of California, Santa Barbara to measure the program’s effectiveness. Since 2009, the What is LOVE program has reached 33,292 teens:

96% reported an increased knowledge and understanding of dating violence
82% reported they know how to find resources and would get help for an abusive relationships Which has led to a 300% increase in teens asking for HELP.

PARENT CHECK LIST
-Excessive Texting
-Depression or anxiety
-Stops activities they enjoy
-Dating partner is extremely jealous
-Dressing differently
-Stops spending time with friends
-Decrease in grades & attendance

QUESTION STARTERS . . .
-How are things going?
-What are your friends’ dating relationships like?
-Why do you think someone would abuse someone they were dating?
-How do you know a relationship is healthy?
-How is your relationship going?

Christy Haynes, Founder
Christy@whatisloveteens.org
805-705-0011