TEEN DATING ABUSE – A FOCUS IN FEBRUARY

 

YOU’RE INVITED!

Launching the I STAND FOR HEALHTY LOVE CAMPAIGN

Monday, February 23rdat 5:30pm

  • Downtown Central Library Faulkner Gallery
  • 40 East Anapamu Street, Santa Barbara, CA

LOVE SHOULDN’T HURT

This is the message administrators and faculty at Santa Barbara Unified School District are sharing with teens as What is LOVE gears up to recognize February as National Teen Dating Violence Prevention Awareness Month

Please join:

  • Mayor Pro Tem Gregg Hart
  • Santa Barbara Youth Council
  • Council Member Cathy Murillo
  • Representative from Congress Woman Lois Capps office
  • Representative from Senator Hanna Beth Jackson office
  • Santa Barbara Public Library

Monique Limon, Board of Education member shared, “I am excited that every effort is being made to help our students be successful. This includes helping our students understand the identify unhealthy relationships. I am thankful to Christy Haynes and her organization What is LOVE for partnering with the Santa Barbara Unified School  District to change the troubling reality that ONE in THREE students in the county experiences dating abuse.”

What is DATING ABUSE? The physical, sexual, digital, verbal, psychological/emotional abuse within a dating relationship, as well as stalking. It can occur in person or electronically and may occur between a current or former dating partner. ONE in THREE teens in Santa Barbara County experience dating abuse and most never ask for help.

Love is trustDID YOU KNOW? Youth who are harmed by teen dating abuse are more likely to do poorly in school, binge drink, attempt suicide, engage in physical fighting, and have a greater likelihood of teen pregnancy. DATING ABUSE does not discriminate. Teens participating in or experiencing dating abuse come from lower-income families as well as upper income families. They represent the entire spectrum of racial and cultural colors, educational levels, and sexual orientation.

February events

  • Monday, February 23rdat 5:30 I STAND FOR HEALTHY LOVE CAMPAIGN Downtown Central Library Faulkner Gallery
  • 6-WEEK HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WORKSHOPS: Begin this month at every high school
  • TEEN ART WALL INSTALLATION AND ACTIVITIES: Located in the main Lobby of the Santa Barbara Public Library, 40 East Anapamu.
  • Check out a book from the Library February Reading list in the Teen Corner
  • Sign the I STAND FOR HEALTHY LOVE pledge at www.whatisLOVEteens.org
  • TAKE the dating quiz
  • Post a LOVE IS … healthy love quality on Social Media #whatisloveteens located in the Teen Corner.

 

COMMUNITY SERVICE FOR EVERY ACTION YOU TAKE

For more information please contact Christy Haynes, What is LOVE Founder at (805-705-0011).                

Community Partners and Sponsors:

  • Santa Barbara Central Library

Contact: Jayne LeeYouth and Teen Services Outreach Coordinator

Phone: 805-564-5646 jlee@SantaBarbaraCA.gov

  • Santa Barbara Youth Council

Contact: Susan Young (805) 897-2650 SYoung@santabarbaraca.gov

Mayor Helene Schneider, Assemblymember Das Williams, and Senator Hannah-Beth Jackson recognize What is Love

 

The WIL Program is proudly supported by Senator Hannah-Beth Jackson:

image007“I commend the “What is Love” organization for holding this event in our community to bring awareness to the very important issue of teen dating violence. When nearly 1.5 million high school students nationwide experience physical abuse from a dating partner in a single year, that indicates a larger problem,” said Senator Hannah-Beth Jackson. “We must send a message to our youth that is not appropriate behavior and there is help and support available. I look forward to continuing my work with ‘What is Love’ to encourage proactive solutions for teens in my district and throughout the state of California”

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Assembly Member Das Williams Recognizes What is LOVE

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“True love does not know or accept violence,” said Assemblyman Das Williams, D-Santa Barbara. “Teens need to make healthy choices and under no circumstances should anyone accept verbal, emotional or physical abuse.
What is Love is an important organization in this battle for awareness. I commend them and others who take a stand against violence.”

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SANTA BARBARA MAYOR HELENE SCHNEIDER HONORS WHAT IS LOVE

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What is LOVE . . . “exemplifies how important it is to spread the message about love as opposed to talking about hate and finding ways to stop the violence”

 

3000 TEENS STARTED A CONVERSATION THIS MONTH: “WHAT IS HEALTHY LOVE? HOW DOES DATING ABUSE IMPACT SCHOOL SUCCESS? HOW DO I CONNECT TO RESOURCES?”


Youth Leaders from each Santa Barbara High School were invited to apply for the Peer Educator/Leadership training. Teens care deeply about their friends and their relationships and they hold the key in promoting healthy relationships, bringing awareness to abusive relationship behaviors, and creating social change. Christy Haynes M.A. Psy, selected leaders to participate in an intensive training to support a better understanding of abusive relationships and how to promote healthy relationships. The training covers warning signs, elements of healthy relationships, referrals for help, cyber literacy as well as peer lead outreach campaign initiatives.

“If we are to interrupt this cycle of dating abuse, this must begin with the youth voice”, said Christy Haynes M.A. Psy.

JAMES S. BOWER FOUNDATION INVESTS $70,000 in What is LOVE TO SUPPORT SANTA BARBARA YOUTH IN IDENTIFYING ABUSIVE LOVE AND BUILDING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP SKILLS.

 

What is LOVE will provide Santa Barbara area youth more resources to help identify abusive love and build healthy relationship skills this fall. What is LOVE is using a grant from the James S. Bower Foundation to expand the reach of its dating violence prevention and awareness program. One in three teens in Santa Barbara County experience dating abuse and most never ask for help.

Jon Clark, President of the James S. Bower Foundation, said, “We are pleased to be supporting What is LOVE and their work in the Santa Barbara School District. We know that part of what students need in order to succeed are school and social environments where they feel safe and supported. The District has made it clear that addressing dating violence is a major part in creating those environments and that What is LOVE has a comprehensive program to help make that happen.”

This type of violence can have a profound impact on the physical and emotional growth of a youth with short- and long-term consequences. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention points out that youth who are harmed by teen dating violence are more likely to do poorly in school, to report binge drinking, attempt suicide, engage in physical fighting and have a greater likelihood of teen pregnancy. Together, they create lasting harm that affects the victim of abuse, their friends, families, schools and surrounding communities.

What is LOVE addresses this crisis by utilizing a restorative justice approach, providing innovative outreach with interactive technology, demonstrating the power of storytelling, and supporting teen-driven awareness campaigns. Its programs currently include a school assembly and school-based workshops for youth and parents. What is LOVE plans to expand its programming to include a documentary, teacher and parent tools, and a dating quiz Mobile APP.

Christy Haynes, MA Psy., founder and director of prevention for WIL said, “Thanks to the generous support of the James S. Bower Foundation, we can continue to provide this essential programming to Santa Barbara County youth. This investment will provide an opportunity to capture more teen stories for the Assembly Format, develop Mobile APPS helping teens identify abusive love, train UCSB peer educators, expand our outreach capabilities with on-line resources, provide educational workshops to parents & teachers, and provide every school in Santa Barbara County awareness materials with resources for help.”

NEW RESEARCH REVEALS MORE THAN 60 PERCENT OF TEENS REPORTED BEING VICTIMS AND PERPETRATORS OF DATING ABUSE.

 

NEW YORK, October 2014: From violence to verbal taunts, abusive dating behavior is pervasive among America’s adolescents, according to a new federally funded survey. It says a majority of boys and girls who date describe themselves as both victims and perpetrators.

Sponsored by the National Institute of Justice, the National Survey on Teen Relationships and Intimate Violence was conducted by NORC at the University of Chicago, a prominent research center that provided preliminary results to The Associated Press. Input came from a nationwide sample of 667 youths aged 12-18 who’d been dating within the past year and who completed a self-administered online questionnaire.

Nearly 20 percent of both boys and girls reported themselves as victims of physical and sexual abuse in dating relationships — but the researchers reported what they called a startling finding when they asked about psychological abuse, broadly defined as actions ranging from name-calling to excessive tracking of a victim. More than 60 percent of each gender reported being victims and perpetrators of such behavior.

The survey found no substantive differences in measures by ethnicity, family income or location.
Elizabeth Mumford, one of the two lead researchers for the survey, acknowledged that some behaviors defined as psychological abuse — such as insults and accusations of flirting — are commonplace but shouldn’t be viewed as harmless.

“None of these things are healthy interactions,” she said. “It’s almost more of a concern that our gut reaction is to accept this as natural.”
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, in its campaigns against teen dating violence, also stresses the potential seriousness of psychological abuse.

For assistance, counseling, and referrals to local advocacy centers, please call the appropriate hotline below. You are not alone.

General Support and Help by Text:

Text “LISTEN” to 741741 to chat with a compassionate, trained counselor about anything.

Dating Abuse Help by Phone:

National Teen Dating Abuse 24-Hour Helpline
866-331-8453 (24/7) 1-866-331-9474/tty:

DR. CASH LEADS EFFORT TO SECURE SANTA BARBARA UNIFIED SCHOOL DISTRICT CONTRACT WITH What is LOVE TO PROVIDE DATING ABUSE PROGRAMMING UTILIZING RESTORATIVE JUSTICE PRINCIPLES TO ALL HIGH SCHOOLS.

 

Santa Barbara, CA September 22, 2014: School principals, counselors, parents and teens have resoundingly expressed an immediate need for continued and expanded in-school dating violence prevention programs. Dr. Cash, Superintendent of Santa Barbara Unified School District, lead an effort to secure a contract with What is LOVE to provide this programming to all secondary schools beginning in the Fall of 2014. School board members unanimously approved the contract in June. ONE in THREE teens in Santa Barbara County experience dating abuse and most never ask for help.

Monique Limon, Board of Education member shared, “I am excited that every effort is being made to help our students be successful. This includes helping our students understand and identify unhealthy relationships. I am thankful to What is LOVE for partnering with the Santa Barbara Unified School District to change the troubling reality that one in three students in the county experiences dating abuse.”

This type of violence can have a profound impact on the physical, emotional and academic growth of a youth with short and long-term consequences. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention points out that youth who are harmed by dating violence are more likely to do poorly in school, to report binge drinking, attempt suicide, engage in physical fighting, and have a greater likelihood of teen pregnancy. Together, they create lasting harm that affects the victim of abuse, their friends, families, schools and surrounding communities.

What is LOVE (WIL) is committed to addressing this crisis utilizing restorative justice principles, innovative outreach employing technology, the power of storytelling, and a teen driven awareness campaign. Their programs currently include a school assembly format, workshops for youth, parents and school staff, and outreach materials.

Christy Haynes MA Psy., founder and director of prevention for What is LOVE said, “I am so grateful for this new partnership with Santa Barbara Unified School District, we can continue to provide this essential programming to Santa Barbara Schools and we can grow our outreach and programming. This new relationship with SBUSD will provide an opportunity to raise funds for more teen stories for a documentary, develop mobile APPS helping teens identify abusive love, train additional peer educators at UCSB, expand our outreach capabilities with on-line resources, provide educational workshops to parents & teachers, and provide every school in Santa Barbara awareness materials with resources for help”.

SENATOR HANNAH-BETH JACKSON, STATE ASSEMBLYMEMBER DAS WILLIAMS, MAYOR HELENE SCHNEIDER, COUNCILMEMBER CATHY MURILLO & COUNCILMEMBER GREGG HART PARTICIPATE IN THE “I STAND FOR HEALTHY LOVE” CAMPAIGN.

WIL_020914_LovebirdEvent-53 Santa Barbara, CA February 2014: On Saturday, February 8th, 2014 Community members gather at the Lovebird Boutique to help launch the “I STAND FOR HEALTHY LOVE”, a month-long series of events helping teens identify abusive love and build healthy relationships skills. The event featured music from LOCAL teen bands “SOZO” & “TRIP ACES”, from Santa Barbara Youth Music Academy. DELISH EATS & SWEETS provided BY FREEDOM4YOUTH Culinary Program. And LOCAL teen artists proudly displayed art created to bring awareness to dating abuse on the ART WALL.

Mayor Schneider and Christy Haynes MA Psy copyTeen Dating Violence Prevention and Awareness Month is a national effort to raise awareness about abuse in teen relationships and promote prevention programs during the month of February. What is LOVE, is proud to present the “I STAND FOR HEALTHY LOVE,” a series of events and activities designed to increase awareness of Teen Dating Abuse and to educate our community’s teens, and parents about the importance of healthy relationships.

The #1 indicator for school success, increased test scores, reduced fighting/bullying, and increased happiness. HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS.

WIL_020914_LovebirdEvent-22However, ONE in THREE teens report experiencing physical, verbal/emotional, sexual or cyber abuse in a dating relationship and most teens never tell or ask for help. Dating abuse is not just dangerous and sometimes deadly, teens who experience abuse in a relationship exhibit decreased grades, higher rates of truancy, higher rates of violence, school drop-out rates, drug abuse, risky sexual behavior and an increased risk of suicide.

“Identifying dating abuse and building healthy relationships skills helps support school success and safety”, says Christy Haynes MA Psy, What is LOVE, founder.

What is LOVE, Santa Barbara Youth Council, Santa Barbara Public Library, Freedom4Youth, Santa Barbara Youth Music Academy and LoveBird Boutique partnered to bring the month long series of events to our community.

    • TEEN ART WALL INSTALLATION: Located on the main floor of the Santa Barbara Public Library, 40 East Anapamu. Check out a book from the February Reading list, sign the I STAND FOR HEALTHY LOVE pledge, TAKE THE dating quiz, PIN an example of healthy love on the ART WALL. Community service and healthy love activity available at Youth desk.

 

    • FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 14th: ALL-SCHOOL ANNOUNCEMENT- We have invited High Schools from Santa Maria to Carpinteria to participate in the “I STAND FOR HEALTHY LOVE” 2014 School Announcement. Designed to be read over a PA system or to individual classes, the Announcement directs young people to visit www.whatisloveteens.org to learn more about how to prevent and end abusive relationships.

 

  • FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 28th: Indulge at the “I STAND FOR HEALTHY LOVE” Ice Cream Social at Santa Barbara Public Library, 40 East Anapamu Street, Townley Room from 3:30-4:30PM. Participate in the Ugly/Awesome Activity, MEET new friends, EAT lots of ice cream. Community service hours available.

For more information please contact Christy Haynes at 805-705-0011

 

Community Partners and Sponsors:

Santa Barbara Central Library

Contact: Jayne Lee, Youth and Teen Services Outreach Coordinator
Phone: 805-564-5646 jlee@SantaBarbaraCA.gov

Santa Barbara Youth Music Academy

Contact: Cory Nelson (805) 450-4983 cjnelson805@gmail.com

Freedom4Youth

Contact: Billi Jo Starr (805) 689-3755 billijo@freedom4youth.org

Lovebird Boutique & Jewelry bar

Contact: Jennifer Scarbrough (805) 884-0242 jennifer@ziajewelry.com

Santa Barbara Youth Council

Contact: Susan Young (805) 897-2650 SYoung@santabarbaraca.gov